Are you a slave to your own thoughts?
Like, do you wish sometimes for your brain to just shut up?
Wouldn’t it be so convenient to have a switch to control your thoughts?
You would finally be able to take complete control over yourself and freely experience life.
Well, you’ve already started the process by reading this post.
Being an introverted thinker myself, I’ve always struggled with my never-ending thought process. But for 6 years already, I’ve been trying to master this skill and now I’ve learned to keep a meditate state and maintain a deliberate and conscious control over my thoughts for longer periods of time.
This blog post is 6 years of extensive research and successful experience distilled into a simple and easy to implement guide.
You won’t be able to find a guide as efficient and effective like this anywhere on the Internet. I wish I had this guide 6 years ago.
In less than 20 minutes of your time, you’ll learn everything you need to master this skill.
Why YOU are not in Control of your Thoughts
It starts with the ego.
Right now, you are an automatic thought process.
You might think that most of your thoughts come from your own conscious action, but unless you’ve already mastered this skill, most of your thoughts really come from two things:
The more you’re aware of these components, the easier it will be to control your thoughts.
1. Ego’s defense mechanism
The ego’s defense mechanism functions to protect the self-image and relieve itself from emotional and social stress.
One example of a defense mechanism which was proposed by Anna Freud is rationalization. This happens when we create rational explanations or excuses for situations that we have difficulty accepting, such as creating excuses for why we have failed an exam instead of accepting the fact that we could have prepared much better.
A few other important weak alternatives of ego’s defense mechanisms are: repression, denial, projection and displacement.
2. Ego’s survival mechanism
The ego’s survival mechanism functions to increase your survival chances by enhancing your value.
Dopamine is closely tied to this process because it is one of the feel-good chemicals (a neurotransmitter) that we receive as a reward when we do anything related to increasing our survival chances.
Dopamine by itself is valuable because it can motivate us to improve and get important work done.
The problem is that dopamine is activated even with unproductive and damaging sources that give a false sense of increased value.
And to make things worse, the unproductive and damaging sources of dopamine are more easily accessible and they offer a much more intense stimulation.
If we don’t have awareness and control over these factors, we’ll always be thinking about and reaching for the easier but long-term damaging activities.
One example would be sweet deserts. The cake by itself doesn’t offer much nutritional value but many people are addicted to it. The reason is that the cake is an easy and highly intensive stimuli for the dopamine system with its sweet taste and the quick receptive nature of glucose energy from processed sugar.
Some other negative sources of dopamine would be reality TV (we feel like a celebrity), social media (we increase our fake perceived value) or video games (we feel like we’re hunting and increasing our value), etc.
So, how do we go about controlling our thoughts?
Before we start, if you stumbled upon this post without a clear desire to master your thoughts, you might be wondering what’s so bad about having a lot of thoughts?
Thoughts by themselves are not bad. The thing is that what you’re having is mostly unnecessary and negative thoughts.
From various statistics, we can conclude that the average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. A study funded by the National Science Foundation has further estimated that of those thoughts, 80% were negative and 95% were repetitive.
Most of your thoughts right now are automatic.
If you don’t believe me, try sitting still with an empty mind for 5 minutes. It’s impossible if you don’t have the awareness and don’t know the tricks. (Worry not, because you’re already enhancing your awareness by reading this post and I’ll soon show you the tricks you can use.)
To take control of your thoughts means that you can consciously choose to think about productive and positive thoughts, and that you can shut off the brain when you need some clarity or rest.
You might even end up with more thoughts than before, but they will be consciously driven by your chosen purpose and curiosities.
Is it really possible?
After decades of being slaves to our automatic thought process, it might seem impossible to master this skill.
But it really just seems impossible because nobody told you how to do it or you’re not exposed to people who’re actively doing it.
One of the main differentiators of people who have higher well-being and success is that they’re able to maintain a focused and clear mind.
The most successful people such as Ray Dalio, Oprah, Bill Ford, Will Smith (etc.) have daily routines such as meditation for maintaining focus. And now, millions of people around the world are starting to enhance the power of focus by such practices as well.
“That’s been one of my mantras – focus and simplicity. Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.” – Steve Jobs
Once you learn the tricks it will be quite easy.
You just need to do two things:
And I’ll show you the 8 easy yet effective techniques you can apply immediately to master these two things.
But before I share with you the practical techniques, I want to empower you with a list of exciting benefits to get your emotions charged.
The focus must be on the ideal future outcome.
I don’t want you to force yourself to improve. Change should be easy. If it isn’t easy, you don’t have a proper strategy in place. If change isn’t easy then your vision is not clear and exciting enough.
By choosing and focusing on the vision and benefits (instead of trying to avoid the problem), you are creating a structure where you’re being pulled by the exciting vision (instead of having to push yourself.)
So remember the reason why you want to take control of your thoughts.
It might be different for different people, but essentially you want to take complete control over yourself and freely experience life.
If you truly desire these things, then read on about the six super upgrades you’ll receive after mastering this skill.
6 Benefits of Taking Control of Your Thoughts
1. Increased happiness
Based on a daily activity and happiness tracking study done by Daniel Gilbert, the author of “Stumbling on Happiness”, it was concluded that people are happiest when they’re focused on the activity they’re doing, instead of thinking about something else (which people spend half their time doing).
Taking control of your thought process will allow you to be aware when you’re mindlessly drifting away thinking about other things.
This doesn’t mean thinking itself is bad. If you’re deliberately thinking about something, then it’s an healthy activity. The key is to be aware and deliberate in thoughts.
2. Less body stress
Remember the statistics that the average person has 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day, and that 80% of them are negative and 95% are repetitive?
When we’re having excess negative thoughts, our body enters the sympathetic nervous system a.k.a “fight or flight response” where the body anticipates and prepare for life-threatening danger by increasing adrenaline, heart rate, sweating and blood pressure.
Our body can’t differentiate between false danger and real danger.
This is why many people have chronic low-level stress and activated sympathetic nervous systems for long periods even without knowing.
Anything can activate this system such as stressing about your school presentation or when you’re rationalizing a minor quarrel with your co-worker that happened last week.
Prolonged activation of this stress response has negative effects on the physical and psychological health.
Focusing on what you can control and being in the present moment can switch your state to the relaxing and regenerating parasympathetic nervous system.
But to do this you first have to learn to control your thoughts.
3. Stronger will-power
Every time you make a decision, your will-power bar decreases.
You could be making major decisions or mundane basic decisions it doesn’t matter. And after you use up all your daily limited will-power by making thousands of mini decisions, you enter the state of “decision fatigue”, also called “ego-depletion”.
In the state of ego-depletion, your prefrontal cortex loses its executive ability of self-control and complex decision making and instead ends up making impulse decisions.
This is what happens after work when you return home and you don’t have any control over yourself. You might have planned to read a book, but instead your go for some snacks and your remote control.
By taking control of your thoughts, you’ll be able to maintain higher will-power reserves. Also you’ll be aware when you drop into decision fatigue so that you can take deliberate rest to reset your will-power instead of making bad decisions.
4. Enhanced productivity
Imagine if you could focus on a single task without being constantly bombarded by random thoughts.
Especially in today’s world of constant distraction, the ability to maintain focus is a superpower.
To attain peak levels of productivity, you have to enter the state of flow where you lose yourself in the task becoming immune to distractions until you either finish the task or create considerable progress.
Leo Babauta of Zen Habits provides amazing tips to enter flow. Two of them is to clear distractions and focus on the task as long as possible.
By taking control of your thoughts, you’ll be able to focus on the tasks for longer periods of time and dismiss any random distracting thoughts.
5. Better decision-making
An important part of taking control of your thoughts is raising your awareness (which you’re doing by reading this post).
Once you have a heightened awareness of your thought process, you can start to consciously identify and manage your thoughts.
In other words, you’re not identified with your first impulsive thoughts. Instead, you’re able to take a third-person view of your thought process. This awareness gives you the ability to think deeper, considering the consequences, alternatives and long-term effects of your decisions.
Basically, having better awareness allows you to identify weak and biased thoughts such as thoughts resulting from prejudices, cognitive biases or even thoughts you’re having in the state of weakness/ego-depletion.
As a result of that, you’ll have a clearer perception of the situation.
A clear perception of the situation combined with the ability to identify and deliberately play with your thought process will greatly enhance your decision-making ability. This will benefit both your personal relationships and your professional career.
6. Enhanced authenticity
Once you free yourself from the automatic thought process, two things will happen.
First, you’ll have a clearer mind. Second, with that clarity, you’ll be able to access your authentic self.
Remember that right now, most of your thoughts stem from your ego’s defense and survival mechanism? Besides that, there’s your personality, your cultural conditioning and life’s circumstances. All of those create an endless torrent of thoughts in your mind.
With the heightened awareness, you’ll be able to identify the real source for each of your thoughts. That will allow you to choose which thoughts to follow and which to ignore.
The more you practice this, the better you’ll be at identifying the thoughts that come from your true self and that serve your true purpose and vision.
And finally, let’s get to the super effective practical techniques you can apply to take control of your thoughts easily.
8 Definite Ways to Take Control of Your Thoughts
To simplify the endeavor, I’ve divided the techniques into two categories.
To take control over your thoughts, you need to do two things:
- Decrease the number of random and negative thoughts
- Increase control over your purposeful and positive thoughts
I’ll share with you the 4 most effective activities for each of these categories.
Decrease the number of random and negative thoughts
1. Set a routine that is in alignment with your joy and purpose
Difficulty: Easy if you know your goals and priorities
Time: 10 minutes
Why: If you don’t have a routine, you will be constantly thinking about what you should be doing throughout the day. And even after you decide what to do, you’ll have second thoughts whether that activity is really the best thing you should be doing.
This is not about forcing discipline. It’s about being more purposeful and clear about your tasks and activities for each day.
How: Set aside 10 minutes to organize your activities so that they’re in alignment with your joy and purpose or vision.
You can do this for all types of activities such as work activities (or school activities if you’re a student), leisure activities and maintenance activities.
The more you plan, the less you’ll have to think.
Routine by itself sounds very rigid. If you’re the type of person who likes things to be more flexible, an easy fix is to set important daily tasks instead of scheduled routines.
You would then try to finish the tasks set for the day before you begin your leisure and relax time.
You can refresh your routine weekly or monthly to prioritize the activities according to your new goals and needs. The goal is not having to think about your activities constantly every hour, every day.
In leisure activities, you’re setting aside time in your day or week when you’ll relax and play or spend time with your loved ones. For example, you might have work activities until 5PM and after that you’re free to relax and spend time with your family or partner.
In maintenance activities, you’re organizing and batching work such as grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning the house, paying bills etc. Instead of shopping for groceries whenever you need something, it’s better to do do batch grocery shopping once a week so that you don’t have to constantly think about it and shop every other day.
2. Get rid of repeating thoughts
Difficulty: Easy if you really desire to master the skill of controlling thoughts
Why: For average people, a big majority of thoughts are repetitive and automatic. Your behaviors and habits are highly dependent on your thoughts. And with most thoughts being repetitive, it’s no surprise that most people are not making real progress in whatever change they’re trying to make.
Stop for a moment and try to be aware of your thoughts. You have to realize and feel this for yourself. Most of them really are repetitive.
The surprising thing is that many of them aren’t really that important. For example it might be a thought to reply to a casual message or wandering about what you’ll eat for dinner (actually very important but yeah) or the thought of a unfinished task or thought about a conversation you had yesterday etc.
You might have 2 or 3 unimportant thoughts repeating 100x throughout the day and we just let them roll infinitely.
How: Either: 1. Deal with the thought right now. Or 2. Write it down to deal with the thought later.
- If it is a thought or activity you can do right now in under 2 minutes, just do it and get rid of the repetitive thought.
- If you can’t or don’t want to deal with it right now, just write it down wherever you write down your notes and tasks.
The act of writing it down is important because it signals to your brain that you won’t forget it and as a result, it doesn’t have to keep reminding you. Also if you schedule the task for later, you’ll get a sense of closure which will stop the thought from repeating.
3. Try a 1 week dopamine fast
Difficulty: Medium, but as long as you don’t give up, you’re good.
Time: 1 week. But actually there’s no spent time because you’re not doing anything. You’re just freeing yourself from bad activities and instead focusing on healthy and productive activities. If you feel really brave, try a 2 week dopamine fast which will provide even better results.
Why: Your brain is currently very f###ed up. So is almost everyone else’s.
In today’s modern world, we are surrounded by easy access to intense stimulation of our “pleasure” centers. Anything that provides a sense of increasing our own value and hence survival chances is tied to the pleasurable dopamine release.
This includes easily accessible movies, other video channels, music, junk food, social networks, news channels, etc. all of which are designed to keep our attention and get us hooked by the intense dopamine stimulation.
All of these channels play to different human motivations for survival such as:
- motivation for hunting and working hard (movies and video games)
- motivation for getting active to gather natural food (junk food)
- motivation for increasing one’s worth for easier procreation (x-rated media)
- motivation for increasing true social value (social media)
- motivation for getting fit (competitive sports)
- motivation for one’s own celebrity status (pre-recorded music)
- motivation for reaching success and and fame (reality TV, watching lives of successful/famous people)…
How is this related to controlling thoughts? Your addicted (even if you might not know it) brain is constantly trying to engage with these easily accessible stimuli.
Basically your prefrontal cortex which is your executive/logical brain that deals with complex and long-term thinking is resisting and fighting the urges of the amygdala and hippocampus.
The amygdala and hippocampus in combination are constantly making you emotionally aroused to the environmental cues and your brain’s memory of past high dopamine releases/pleasure.
This is what keeps you distracted and demotivated from doing productive work.
How: Set aside 10 minutes to list all the activities that you have been dependent upon to provide you with the feel-good state.
It might be random YouTube videos, tasty snacks or deserts, reality shows, Netflix shows, playing video games on your PC or mobile phone, or spending time on social media.
After you have listed these, you’ll have to formally choose to not do any of these activities for next 7 days. It’s just 7 days and after that you can decide whether you will restart the activities.
To formally choose, you just have to say out loud or in your head, I choose to stop these activities for 7 days so that I can have higher energy, motivation, confidence, clarity and take control over my thoughts. You can also write this sentence below your list of activities you chose to stop.
In this way, you will also receive support from your subconscious part of the brain.
To ensure you have a successful dopamine fast, remember these three things:
- Be focused on the vision and benefits. Whenever you feel the urge for the unhealthy activities, remember the benefits that await you and the vision of yourself that you will become after you master the addictions and reset your dopamine system. Few of the benefits are: higher baseline motivation to do productive work, enhanced daily focus, less fatigue, less brain fog, higher energy and confidence, ability to feel joy from simple things such as eating or just being present. (the benefits are from my own personal experience and a summary of tens of thousands of other people who overcame their own addictions)
- Don’t worry if you fail. The first few days will be especially hard, but keep on persisting and it will get really easy as the days go by. Your brain needs time for reprogramming and starving the dopamine receptors from the usual stimuli. As long as you don’t give up, it means that you’re progressing.
- Focus on healthy and productive activities. After stopping the addictive activities, you’ll have more free time. You must prepare yourself with a list of activities as replacements. This is because you’ll have excess energy and your body needs to spend this one way or another. If you don’t have prepared your replacement activities you will either fall back into the addiction or start a different unhealthy activity. The new healthy activities might be related to your hobby, leisure, family or work. Align the new activities with your joy and purpose/goals for full effect.
- Bonus: You need to sleep well and take rest during the day when you feel weak. As you’re resisting the urges, you’ll more easily fall into the state of ego-depletion and as a result fall to the urges. Whenever you feel weak, make sure to take some rest by taking a nap or taking a shower or eating some fruits or honey for some healthy and quick energy.
4. Practice daily gratitude
Why: Unless your thoughts are driven by a purpose to care or to create something, most of your thoughts are driven by your ego’s needs.
The ego’s needs are fundamentally formed form the feeling of LACK. The ego’s defense and survival mechanisms are engaged because of instability and insecurity. Your brain is in a constant state of tension, and as a result, it constantly has to think about the problems.
This is helpful if you’re really in a problematic situation, but if you already have access to read this article with your electronic device and internet, it means that you also have other basic needs met (and the feeling of scarcity is just in your mind).
The way to override this problem is to transcend from the feeling of lack to feeling of abundance.
When you switch from making thoughts about what you lack to making thoughts about things you already have, you’re making a fundamental switch in your mind.
Instead of noticing problems, you’ll start noticing and appreciating positive things which will not only help you cut on negative thoughts but also improve your long-term well-being and health.
How: Think of one thing you’re grateful for right now!
Integrate gratitude in your everyday life. If you’re doing journaling, make listing one to five things you’re grateful for a part of the journaling process.
Other easy ways to integrate gratitude is to think of one thing you’re grateful for first thing after you wake up. The more you practice gratitude the easier it will be to stay in the abundance mindset.
Start by thinking of one thing you’re grateful for in the morning. Then you can try integrating gratitude practice before your meals by being grateful for the food and before you sleep by being grateful for another pleasant day.
Increase control over your purposeful and positive thoughts
1. Choose your own meditative anchor
Difficulty: Easy if you tried some form of meditation.
Why: Maintaining a mindful state is same as controlling your thoughts. Being mindful means that you’re fully present and focused on the task at hand whether it may be a work task or just sitting still and feeling the different sensations. This is the opposite of being distracted and mindlessly pulled by your automatic thought process.
The meditative anchor is a widely used tool to make meditation easier.
Just as a ship sets the anchor so that it maintains stability, you can utilize an anchor to maintain focus and clarity.
How: You pick one anchor and focus on it anytime you feel out of control and distracted.
There are different types of anchors and you should choose what feels most natural and effective for you.
What are different meditation anchor types?
- Breath anchor
- Body sensation anchor
- External sensation anchor
- Repeating mantra anchor
You can either choose one or combine different anchors.
Let me quickly explain each of these. Try to sense the things I’m describing and see which one feels most natural for you.
What is the breath anchor?
For the breath anchor, you focus on the sensation of your breath. You focus on the air entering your body during the inhale and air leaving your body during the exhale. You can also just focus on the sensation in your nose, or even visualize a positive color filling your body and negative color exiting your body.
What is the body sensation anchor?
For the body sensation anchor, your focus is on a body sensation. You either focus on a sensation in your body such as the pulse or the feeling of relaxation of muscles or the warmth in your body. You can also maintain awareness of different sensations on your skin such as warmth of the sun or the caressing wind.
What is the external sensation anchor?
For the external sensation anchor, you maintain awareness on a certain external sensation such as the sense of sound, sense of vision, sense of smell etc. For example, you maintain focus on sounds around you without identification or judgement, just feeling and maintaining awareness on the pure sensation of the sounds.
What is the mantra anchor?
For the mantra anchor, you repeat a certain word or phrase. You maintain your awareness by repeating and focusing on the sound or meaning of the words. Any word that can provide you an easier focus on being present and calm will work. Here are a few examples: be present, stop the thoughts, relax, here and now…
I do a combination of body sensation by sensing the pulse throughout the body, relaxing the body through a body scan and do a mantra by repeating either the phrase “stop the thoughts” or “life and love”.
You have to choose for yourself. If you have difficulties, you can start by focusing on your breath because it’s the most universal and basic activity.
Whenever you feel distracted or feel like your thoughts won’t stop, return to your anchor.
As with any type of skill, the more you practice this, the easier and more effective it will be.
2. Maintain high physical energy
Difficulty: Easy if you have the desire to optimize your health and energy levels.
Time: You’ll have to invest some time in the beginning until you make the healthy lifestyle changes. But after you get used to the new lifestyle, you’ll have even more time because you have almost no fatigue and you sleep less (I’ve cut 3 hours of sleep naturally just by enhancing my health).
Why: Higher physical energy allows you to have better control over your emotions and thoughts.
This one is critical. There’s a reason why the blog has a separate category for Maximizing Energy.
Having high physical energy is the foundational building block for enhancing joy and potential.
And it is important in maintaining control over your thoughts.
The reason is that when you’re maintaining healthy lifestyle habits, you have stronger will power and are better able to replenish your energy.
And will-power is crucial so that you don’t drop into the state of ego-depletion where you lose control over your executive part of the brain that activates your control center for attention, inhibiting distractions and better decision making.
How: To improve your physical energy, you either 1. Increase energy or 2. Maintain energy
To increase your energy requires making long-term healthy lifestyle changes in your physical, emotional and mental aspects of life. It’s a super huge topic.
For the purposes of this post, I’ll focus on the second point (maintaining energy) because this is the major problem for most people. If we look at the pareto distribution, maintaining energy will be the 20% of your activities that will give you 80% of the results for now.
If you follow these 5 tips, you’ll be way ahead of most people in terms of your energy levels. You’ll have to follow each of them to gain the complete benefit.
- Maintain proper eating habits (How: chew more – like 50-100 times; don’t overeat – just eat until first signs of satiety; avoid processed and sugar-filled stuff; don’t eat when stressed)
- Sleep well (How: maintain some physical activity every day; avoid blue-light 2 hours before sleep; don’t oversleep and don’t under-sleep – if you think you’ve slept enough, get out of bed)
- Avoid a sedentary lifestyle (How: try to stand as much as you can during the day)
- Get at least 10-30 minutes of physical exercise (of any type) every day preferably with sweating (or 30-60 minutes of walk)
- Rest when tired (How: when you’re physically or mentally tired, don’t watch TV to stimulate your brain even more. Instead just sit and relax for 5 minutes. Try to maintain focus on your meditative anchor)
3. Set a vision to guide your thoughts and behaviors
Difficulty: Easy if you have some self-awareness about how you want to live
Time: 10 minutes
Why: If you don’t know where you’re headed or what you want, you’re bound to constantly think and worry about your life. You’re basically leaving the reins of your thought process to random impulses of your ego’s needs and random environmental cues all fighting for your attention.
Without a vision to serve you as an orientation, you can’t set short-term goals nor activities and processes to reach those goals.
You need a vision so that your thoughts can become purposeful and deliberate.
Think of it as having a lighthouse in the distance so that you know which way to sail your ship.
How: Vision is your what you imagine your life to be in a distant future, anywhere between 5 to 50 years.
It could be in a form of the perfect day you imagine for yourself. Or a vision of a business you want to build. Or a hobby that you have mastered which is providing value to other people. It could also be a vision of you leading a happy life with your family in the future.
Before trying to form your own vision, remember these three things:
- Your vision must excite you. It should pull you towards the achievement of the vision as a source of energy and motivation.
- You don’t need to know immediately how to achieve your vision. That’s what happens after you choose your vision.
- Don’t lower your vision because of your limiting beliefs of what is possible.
Here are some tips if you lack self-awareness to identify your vision:
- List your hobbies, your favorite movies and books. From this list try to find a recurring theme or character motivations. These answers will help you form your own vision.
- Answer this question: You came from a different world as a new YOU. Nothing is holding you back and you’re free to imagine your ideal life. How would it look and what would you like to do?
- Take some personal assessment tests such as MBTI (link to a test) or Enneagram (link to a test) personality tests and read about the natural motivations, strengths and weaknesses of your personality. Personally, learning about my MBTI type in depth was the second most valuable thing I did for my own personal development. Needless to say it has helped form my own vision which is in complete alignment with my personality, strengths and motivations.
4. BONUS: Singletask
Difficulty: Easy if you tried meditation and have strong desire to stay focused
Why: Singletasking is the key to stay focused and present during the whole day. It’s basically a superpower.
Singletasking is similar to the technique of using a meditative anchor to help you stay focused and present. The difference between singletasking and using an anchor is that you can be present AND super productive at the same time.
Many of you are trying to become more productive by trying to multitask. But studies have shown that multitasking is inhibiting productivity, costing time and energy in cognitive switching between tasks, lowers attention, lowers IQ and weakens the part of your brain (anterior cingulate cortex) that deals with cognitive and emotional control.
The problem is more serious today due to the abundance of technological devices (TVs, smartphones, PCs, tablets etc.) and apps/social networks/other platforms purposefully designed to get you addicted by hacking your neurology that deals with motivation and addictions.
Because of the lowered attention span, cognitive control and abundance of addictive stimulatory sources, it’s no wonder that even our thoughts are out of control.
It’s not the end though. The plasticity of our brains can work both ways. Just as our attention spans got weakened, we can train our brain to stay more focused by practicing singletasking.
How: Practice singletasking whenever you can. You could start by focusing on finishing this post.
One of the first ways to get back control of our thoughts was setting a routine. If you have a routine in place, it will be much easier to practice singletasking because you know what you should be doing.
Singletasking means that you’re deliberate with behavior and the way you spend your time. Whenever you’re starting a new activities such as cooking food, reading a book or listening to a class, choose to stay focused on that task and fight off any distracting thoughts that arise.
One trick to help you with singletasking is defining your tasks. In other words, you have to be clear about one of these:
- Time limit of working on your task
- The form of your completed task
This doesn’t only go with daily activities. You can also apply this concept in your goals. So instead of trying to achieve many things at once, you can focus on one thing at a time. Try one thing for a month then another. Or master one thing for a year before doing something else.
In today’s world of multitasking and distraction, mastering singletasking will provide you a big advantage in both your career and personal well-being.
HURAAAAAAY (OMG YOU’VE MADE IT)
You are on FIRE.
If you’ve made it all the way here, you’re already way ahead of most people in terms of attention, focus and desire to improve.
You have what it takes to reach beyond and become the best version of yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back, you deserve it seriously.
What can you do now to master the skill of controlling your thoughts so that you can finally experience life freely as you want and take complete control of your life?
You’re already almost there now that you’ve learned EVERYTHING you need to master this skill.
Now, you just need to start practicing. If you’ve actively read and tried some techniques while reading, you’ve already started the process.
You can either:
- Create your own action plan on how you will practice each of the 8 ways of becoming the master of your thoughts
- As a reward for you reading all the way here, I have prepared for you a FREE 7 day step by step program to get you easily started. I’ve designed the program to be as EASY and EFFECTIVE as possible. It will take you only 5 minutes per day.
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Awesome article, concise and practical.
Hi there. Well, this was a good read. Of all the things I tried in order to calm my very chaotic mind, the most effective, important and meaningful one was becoming aware of how many things I should be grateful for. Now I’m ok with life the way it is, so sometimes a small change of perspective does a lot.
Anyway, thumbs up for this very nice article and the cool tips I’ll practice (and hopefully not stop after a while and start sabotaging myself again haha).
P.S. there was a lot od “I’s” in my comment. Self-centred individual in here haha
Keep the great work:)
Thank you so much for writing me! I’m glad you liked the post and I sincerely hope you’ll take control of your thoughts (as much as it is possible). It has been quite a few months since I wrote this post, so I would love to recommend you some new tips that have helped me! The first one is doing a dopamine fast (this is really a game-changer) and maintaining focus on our goals, priorities and activities :).
And as you’ve said, perspective is really powerful as well. Being happy just being alive and receiving every new day with gratitude and a heart for service is another game-changer!
Thank you! Wish you a wonderful day! 🙂
Detailed, can see/feel your effort, outstanding piece of work